Do you or don’t you? Bonbonnière is given as a keepsake of the wedding. I’ve received all sorts at weddings and sometimes none at all. As a guest, I haven’t ever been concerned about what I receive or whether I receive anything, which really leaves it open as to what you might do.
The traditional gift is five sugar almonds in an organza or tulle bag. The bitter flavour represents life and the sugarcoating represents the hope that life will be more sweet than bitter. Five are given to represent health, wealth, long life, fertility and happiness.
Image: Sugared almonds and sunglasses
There are of course no restrictions to what you can give as a momento, or how much you spend. My friends have given out tree seedlings and treats and they’ve been lovely, but I’m surprised how much I’ve been concerned with what to give. I swing between giving gifts and not giving gifts because in the end they don’t make a big difference.
Remember my original theme was focused around using succulents? I researched buying succulents, including trying to find out whether I could propagate and pot my own. That idea was quickly dismissed, as I only had four months to prepare! I found someone that sold small succulents in lots of 60, which seemed about the right amount. I would then collect tin cans and jars and pot them, then set them out as part of the table settings on each table. It’s lucky my theme changed because that was going to be a lot of work. So pretty though…
Image: Succulent gifts and tins
New theme, new idea. I was really stuck, but then thought maybe I could develop the origami theme further. I didn’t want to have more cranes, as it would be too much, so I began looking at other patterns. The first I liked was a ‘secret heart‘ box. I could have a lolly bar and they could take their little heart box and take lollies home. Or I could donate money to charity and leave a little note in the box, and they could still fill it up with lollies.
I didn’t like how the secret heart wouldn’t sit flat and wasn’t an attractive shape. There were lots of other heart patterns to try and one that really stood out for me was one I showed you in my first post on my wedding theme. It was called a blossom heart. I had a hard time finding paper in suitable colours. I wanted a hint of blue and gold if possible to link it to my dress colours. It was hard to find paper lighter than 80gsm (easier to crease) and there was no origami paper I could find that was the right blue. I found some wrapping paper on special, and it was an okay solution but still not perfect. I then found some designs that were perfect that I’ll print onto good quality paper.
Finally, I’ve had another little idea that I’ll save for the final photos of the wedding, but it involves a card tucked into the back of the blossom heart, and asking people to write us a note sharing advice or just good wishes. They’ll have a little something to take home too and I think I will still donate to charity.